Winning the War in Your Mind

Jaret B Barron
Dec 6, 2025
3 min read

Updated: Jan 20

Scripture of the Day

“He will keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on Him.” — Isaiah 26:3

Mastering Your Inner Critic

Mastering your inner talk is one of the most important skills you will ever develop. By default, we are our own biggest critics. Your natural instinct is to call yourself dumb, to feel stupid, to replay your mistakes, to regret your failures, and to judge yourself more harshly than anyone else ever could.

But your next level, your dream, your purpose, your calling, cannot be reached if you allow your inner critic to control the narrative. The truth is simple: You must learn to observe the pendulum swing without riding it.

The Pendulum Principle

Life is a pendulum. What goes up must come down; what goes down will rise again. Every good has a bad. Every bad has a good. But the danger is not in the swing, the danger is in riding the swing. When you ride the pendulum, your emotions determine your direction. Your feelings determine your identity. Your setbacks determine your self-worth. The moment you become the rider, you lose control. But when you become the observer, everything changes.

You Are the Observer, Not the Swing

When you stand back and observe the pendulum, you begin to understand something powerful: This is happening for you, not to you. You couldn’t have prevented certain things. You couldn’t have known what you didn’t know. You’re experimenting. You’re learning. You’re building. You’re becoming. If you’re coming from a community where no one around you is a millionaire, a CEO, or a billionaire, then you are literally charting new territory. That means you will hit walls, pitfalls, and blind spots, not because you’re inadequate, but because you’re pioneering. So give yourself the grace and mercy that nobody ever taught you how to give. Your job is not to be perfect, your job is to keep learning. In truth: You are a mad, successful scientist. You experiment. You adjust. You test. You fail. You try again. And eventually, you get it right.

Feel Your Feelings, But Don’t Let Them Define You

Being the observer doesn’t mean you don’t feel anything. Feel your anger. Feel your disappointment. Feel your frustration. Those emotions can become fuel. But do not allow those emotions to become your identity. You are not your mistakes. You are not your worst moment. You are not your failures. You are a king. You are a queen. You are a conqueror. And conquerors don’t collapse when life hits them, they rise.

But rising requires mastering the inner critic that wants to tear you down the moment something goes wrong.

The Process Hurts — But It’s Working

Sometimes your best won’t be good enough. And yes, that hurts. But that hurt has purpose. It is shaping you. It is refining you. It is stretching you.

And your hurt is not proof of your weakness, it’s proof of your evolution.

So:

Feel your feelings.
Learn from them.
Let them move you, not halt you.
Let them motivate you, not break you.

And most importantly: Do not ride the pendulum. Observe it.

Mastering your inner critic is how you win the war in your mind.

BRAND MAN TIP OF THE DAY

“Silence the Noise, Amplify the Vision.”

Your inner critic is loudest when your vision is quiet. But when your purpose gets louder, your doubt gets weaker. A clear vision silences confusion. A focused mind destroys fear. And when your internal noise fades, your next level becomes visible again.

ACTION STEP — The 30-Second Vision Anchor When negative thoughts rise, pause and say aloud: “My vision is louder than my fear.” Then picture the finished version of your dream for 10 seconds and identify one small action you can take today that aligns with that future. This resets your focus and amplifies your vision in turbulent moments.